Blindspots Between Us

Our brains take shortcuts by filling gaps with assumptions, and those shortcuts often lead us into the same relational mistakes again and again. This guide explains how these thinking errors, known as cognitive biases, distort our view of the people around us and quietly undermine friendships, family ties, workplace collaborations and romantic partnerships.

Drawing on evidence-based cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), the book identifies the most common hidden biases that keep us from seeing situations clearly and that fuel misunderstandings. Readers are taught practical debiasing skills: pausing before reacting, observing what is actually happening, and questioning the conclusions they have quickly drawn about other people's motives.

The author also encourages readers to take others' perspectives and past experiences into account before judging them, so that a rushed verdict does not damage a valuable connection. The approach rests on the idea that everyone has blind spots, and that recognizing your own is the first step toward relationships you truly want and, ultimately, a more understanding world.