Dirty Laundry

Living with ADHD, or loving someone who has it, shapes everything from how a home is kept and how a person looks after themselves to whether appointments get remembered. Many people with the condition carry heavy shame about housework, hygiene and punctuality, and they often feel misread by family and friends who grow frustrated with their behavior. This book speaks to both sides of that dynamic.

Its portrait of daily life with ADHD is candid and sometimes raw, and it offers practical suggestions suited to how the brain actually works. The aim is to help readers move from self-hatred toward self-acceptance. The book covers lessons such as no longer seeing yourself as fundamentally broken, no longer measuring yourself against neurotypical expectations, explaining your struggles to the people who love you, and being compassionate rather than judgmental toward yourself and others. Partners, parents and friends will also find guidance on supporting someone with ADHD in ways that suit that person, and on moving from frustration to patience and understanding.

The book draws on the strategies Rich and Rox use to reduce shame, improve communication and find happiness in their neurodivergent household. Its tone is frank and frequently humorous, and its stories carry both heartache and laughter. It is intended for neurodivergent readers and for the people who care about them.