She Comes First

Sex therapist Ian Kerner makes the case that oral sex should not be treated as a brief prelude to intercourse. Instead, he presents it as the center of shared pleasure, a way to bring a partner through arousal again and again during a single encounter.

Many women say that men know surprisingly little about the clitoris. Kerner responds with a practical handbook built around dozens of techniques for cunnilingus. Its aim is to replace guesswork with reliable methods that leave a partner satisfied, and to help both people enjoy the experience.

The book also gives a plain-language overview of female anatomy, covering the clitoris, the G-spot, and the mechanics of female orgasm. It addresses performance pressure directly, treats the subject without embarrassment, and is written with men in mind as its intended readers.