The undervalued self

Elaine N. Aron, known for her earlier books on highly sensitive people, turns her attention here to the question of self-worth. Her central argument is that a person's self-esteem grows out of a healthy balance between love and power in everyday life.

The book shows readers how to bring more love into moments that seem to call for control, and how to spot power struggles that are really about affection or closeness. Aron applies these ideas to intimate relationships and to work alike. Her aim is to help readers move past shame, a sense of defeat, and depression, to ease hostility in their relationships, and to grow into a fuller version of themselves.

Written in a warm, clear voice and informed by both research and real human examples, the book is intended as a practical guide for anyone who wants stronger relationships and a more secure sense of their own worth.